Tuesday, April 12, 2011

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Gallery: Happy 40th Birthday, Shannen Doherty!

Posted: 12 Apr 2011 08:52 AM PDT

It hardly seems possible, but Brenda Walsh herself, Shannen Doherty, is 40 years old today.

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Gallery: Happy 40th Birthday, Shannen Doherty!

Textual Healing: Things Better Said In Person

Posted: 12 Apr 2011 09:25 AM PDT

Textual HealingText messaging is often the fastest way to communicate with friends and acquaintances, but it's not always the best one. Especially when it comes to texting with guys. Here at Crushable we aim to help you sift through all the subtext and emerge relatively unscathed – with a little help from our friend Amanda Ernst.

Last week, I told the story of a text I felt ranked among the worst I’d ever received, mostly because the cheesy, heart-crushing sentiment would have been best conveyed in person.

I know I’m not alone in receiving and/or sending such messages, and I was happy to see a couple readers share their experiences.

Commenter Wendy admitted that she had broken up with a guy over text once (a common occurrence) and not something to ashamed of by itself. But, Wendy added, “I used a movie line, ‘Anything that is less than extraordinary is only a waste of time.’ I am not proud of my actions.” Yes, that is quite embarrassing, but this is the thing with breaking up over text: it’s hard not to resort to cliche to get the job done. I wonder, how did the dumpee respond?

Another commenter, requiem, revealed she had been the recipient of a text that she felt was inappropriate. She said:

“A good guy friend once sent me a text to ask if I wanted to meet up for a drink at our local pub. When I said I didn't feel like it he proceeded to send me 6 pages of text explaining how he couldn't keep in a secret any longer and that he was actually in love with me. NOT COOL.”

Guys take note: even something you consider good news is always best delivered in person. How did he think the object of his affection would react? And wouldn’t you want to do something so personal in person, to look into her eyes and experience that moment of intimacy? I understand that sometimes it’s easier to communicate very deep and personal things digitally — it’s somehow less scary — but in avoiding the possibility of a bad reaction, you’re also preventing any good reaction that would occur when you’re one-on-one. You’re shooting yourself in the foot before you even get the words out of your mouth.

In these kinds of situations, and so many others, I urge you to consider whether text is really the best medium to convey your thoughts and feelings. In this age of digital communication, we sometimes forget — some things are just best said in person.

Have you ever sent or received a message via text that you later realized would have been better said in person? Leave your experiences in the comments below and you might see if featured in an upcoming installment of Textual Healing.

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Textual Healing: Things Better Said In Person

Sex on the Wire: The Couple Who Showers Together (Or Doesn't Shower Together), Stays Together

Posted: 12 Apr 2011 11:09 AM PDT

One of the most important points of compatibility? Your hygiene routine. (The Frisky)

Here are the dos and don’ts of dealing with your ex’s. (College Candy)

Do you ever feel like the guy you’re sleeping with isn’t paying you any attention during the act? Here’s how to catch his eye. You know, in case he totally forgot you were there. (Buzzfeed)

Would you use this as your wedding invitation? (The Gloss)

Do you blame your father for your relationship woes? Halle Berry says the reason she’s not the “marrying kind” is because of her father. (YourTango)

(Photo via Marie Claire)

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Sex on the Wire: The Couple Who Showers Together (Or Doesn't Shower Together), Stays Together

Mindy Kaling Announces The Office's Guest Star Character Names

Posted: 12 Apr 2011 11:02 AM PDT

A few minutes ago, comedy heroine Mindy Kaling tweeted that The Office‘s show runner had authorized her to announce the character names of the series’ slew of upcoming guest stars. And then she tweeted this! These are awesome — Robert California, you guys!

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Mindy Kaling Announces The Office's Guest Star Character Names

Posted: 12 Apr 2011 10:54 AM PDT

Today is Free Cone Day at Ben & Jerry’s! – From noon til 8 p.m., your local Scoop Shop is offering up a pretty hefty free serving of ice cream. Here’s your chance to try the Jimmy Fallon flavor, which is yummy but best served as one scoop. (Ben & Jerry’s)

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Crushable Quotable: Reese Witherspoon Wants Her Privacy and Her Magazine Covers Too

Posted: 12 Apr 2011 10:45 AM PDT

Reese Witherspoon seems like one of Hollywood’s most-together stars: she doesn’t have any drug scandals, she’s happily remarried to talent agent Jim Toth, and she’s a devoted mom to her kids Ava and Deacon Phillippe. And she’s on the cover of May’s issue of Vogue. In the accompanying interview, she talks about the burdens of fame and how much she misses her privacy:

I mean, I feel like an ingrate for even thinking anything isn't good. I'm very, very, very lucky. But . . . umm . . . probably that I parted with my privacy a long time ago. We went different ways. And sometimes I mourn it. Sometimes I will sit in the car and cry. Because I can't get out. That's the only thing: I mourn the loss of my privacy.

On one level, I get that. I can’t imagine what it must be like to go online and read horrible things about yourself on the internet – and Reese has it easy compared to, say, Vanessa Hudgens. However, as Lainey Gossip points out, Reese is one of the many celebrities who wants to have it both ways. She sold the pictures from her wedding to magazines and probably made a tidy sum doing it. So many stars want to profit off of their media coverage, whether it’s selling pictures of themselves to magazines or courting bloggers to get buzz building for their new project, but they complain about the media whenever someone criticizes them. Sorry, celebrities, but you don’t get to have it both ways. Either you want the media to pay attention to you, or you don’t. I might be able to buy Reese’s argument if she said paparazzi were harassing her kids or something – since they didn’t ask to become famous – but you can’t sell pictures of your wedding and also be sad about losing your privacy. Next time, just make a private wedding album.

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Crushable Quotable: Reese Witherspoon Wants Her Privacy and Her Magazine Covers Too

The Daily WTF: What's Up With The Killing's Fake Newspaper?

Posted: 12 Apr 2011 10:41 AM PDT

Eagle eyed Daily Show writer Tim Carvell spotted an unusual headline in the fake newspaper show on The Killing. Nestled between articles about budget revisions and police goings on is a story about a sea otter eating at a local cafe. And patrons were rightfully stunned!

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The Daily WTF: What's Up With The Killing's Fake Newspaper?

Video: Extreme Ironing Is a Sport Now

Posted: 12 Apr 2011 10:05 AM PDT

Ironing is one of my least favorite household chores, but it would be way more fun if I could iron while cliff-diving. If there can be an Extreme Couponing show, then there can be one about extreme ironing, right?

[Via Bits and Pieces]

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Video: Extreme Ironing Is a Sport Now

Conspiracy Theory: Rebecca Black's "Friday" Is About the JFK Assassination

Posted: 12 Apr 2011 09:52 AM PDT

I love sfwChan for posting gems like this declaration that Rebecca Black‘s viral, hate-that-you-love-it hit “Friday” is actually an intricately coded commentary on the assassination of John F. Kennedy in 1963. It’s unclear if this is an elaborate, ironic joke or if Anonymous actually put a lot of thought into the post, but a scary number of details match up… (Click to expand.)

Don’t you just love Internet posters with so much time on their hands? Thank you for making me laugh today, sfwChan.

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Conspiracy Theory: Rebecca Black's "Friday" Is About the JFK Assassination

The Internet Backlash Is Here, and It's Coming From Celebrities

Posted: 12 Apr 2011 09:19 AM PDT

In a recent interview with People, Vanessa Hudgens — she of the third round of leaked nude pics — expressed her distaste for the Internet. When asked to name the best invention, the Sucker Punch star instead said,

“I know what the worst invention ever is. The Internet. I think it’s ruining everyone, and it just makes everybody way too accessible — it just takes away the glamor and mystery of our business.”

It’s surprising that a member of the first generation to grow up with the Internet would be so against it, but she isn’t the only one in her demographic. Right before she returned to Twitter, fellow Disney starlet Miley Cyrus made clear her dislike for social networking: “I do not tweet, I do not social network, I try to stay out of it. I complain enough about people knowing too much about my private life, so to go out there and exploit myself would be silly and hypocritical.”

Both Hudgens and Cyrus have had their squeaky-clean Disney images tarnished by leaked photos of them making out with scantily-clad girls and smoking salvia, respectively. So they’re blaming the messenger (Twitter or TMZ, say) without taking time to consider that they should really be blaming their so-called “friends” who leaked the photos, or the hackers who got into their phones.

The feeling is mutual for their Hollywood elders. In 2007, TV Squad discovered a diatribe from reality star Krishtine de Leon, who can thank MTV’s I’m from Rolling Stone for her brief fame. Her hatred was reserved for Internet commenters, or as she called them, “perverted internet douchebags” who didn’t get her “cultural aesthetic.” She went on to call them “hatin-ass, racist-ass, bitch-ass, cracka-ass, lyin-ass, salty-ass mothaf–ka”s.

And according to John Mayer in his infamous Playboy interview, Jennifer Aniston is one of many celebs who was famous before the Internet and didn’t know how to handle this new facet of fame. (Interestingly, Mayer praised Twitter, saying, “I can show my real voice.”) I’m just gonna copy over the entire paragraph, because it’s all relevant:

“If Jennifer Aniston knows how to use BitTorrent I’ll eat my fucking shoe. One of the most significant differences between us was that I was tweeting. There was a rumor that I had been dumped because I was tweeting too much. That wasn’t it, but that was a big difference. The brunt of her success came before TMZ and Twitter. I think she’s still hoping it goes back to 1998. She saw my involvement in technology as courting distraction. And I always said, ‘These are the new rules.’”

Amazingly, Mayer actually makes some sense. He explains that the new moral for how celebs interact with the Internet and social networking is this: You have to be willing to make fun of yourself and show that you don’t take everything so seriously. Relatability is key.

Maybe Hudgens and Cyrus could learn a thing or two from him.

"I know what the worst invention ever is. The internet. I think it’s ruining everyone, and it just makes everybody way too accessible it just takes away the glamor and mystery from our business."

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The Internet Backlash Is Here, and It's Coming From Celebrities
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