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- Etiquette Guide: Why "Are You on Facebook?" Can Be the Most Uncomfortable Question
- Gallery: Katy Perry's 10 Wackiest Looks
- '16 and Pregnant' Couple Aubrey and Brandon Have Divorced
- The Daily WTF: Tom Ford's Etiquette Tips As Presented By Pugs
- Which 'Teen Mom' Is Worse: Jenelle Evans or Amber Portwood?
- What Is Your Least Favorite Movie Ever?
- 'Jersey Shore' Guidocabulary: Stop Being a Whiskey Dick and Maybe Apologize
| Etiquette Guide: Why "Are You on Facebook?" Can Be the Most Uncomfortable Question Posted: 25 Mar 2011 11:14 AM PDT
But there’s a minimum amount of time — coupled with some social intelligence — for someone asking for my Facebook to be acceptable and not weird. I had two recent encounters in which I wondered what could be going on in these people’s heads when they asked that dreaded question. The first happened at the Social Media Week party in February. I came to the venue knowing no one except a friend, and she helped to introduce me to a crowd. I hit it off with a few women and ended up chatting for a while, but then a guy sort of infiltrated our little circle. Realizing that I had done the same thing two hours prior, I tried to make small talk, but it was also getting late and I was headed out. I said something to the effect of, “Nice to meet you,” and he responded, “Are you on Facebook?” I hate this question. It’s the social-network equivalent of when someone you don’t know or like asks, “Do you have plans this weekend?” You’re trapped into saying no, because you can’t make up a lie on the spot; then the person dives for that opening and invites you out. Suddenly you’re stuck in a situation you don’t want to be in. Remember when a guy would ask for your phone number and you could jot down any seven digits, or even something cruel like the Rejection Hotline? You can’t do that with Facebook, because it’s not as if you have multiple profiles hanging around! (Although this is a good argument for Christopher Poole‘s stance on Internet pseudonyms.) I’m not saying that I felt cornered by this guy to be mean; he and I had honestly not talked at all. I knew nothing about him, so I didn’t feel comfortable handing him the keys to my online life. Luckily, I was saved by the paranoid privacy settings I had put for myself years prior; when the guy typed my name in all-lowercase, no results came up. I said I’d Facebook him, but never did. A week or two ago, I was on the subway coming home after a late night with my old roommate, and a young couple cornered me to try and invite me to their church. (No joke; I was seriously rattled that they could smell the agnosticism on me.) I politely listened to their pitch and even took a postcard, all the while counting down my stops until I could escape. Then the girl pulled out her phone and said, “Are you on Facebook?” What was I going to say? “Facebook is against my religion” was out, and I may have already mentioned that I was a blogger, so not being connected to a social network seemed very unlikely. To her credit, this girl caught on to my reaction and gave me her name so I could find her. Just because we put so much of ourselves out on Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, and other sites doesn’t mean that others automatically have the prerogative to demand access to social networks that operate on some form of privacy. I’m happy to give a person my Facebook, but I have to have had a conversation with him/her and actually envision us talking beyond that encounter. I believe MADtv put it best with their “Can I Have Your Number” sketch. Does anyone else share this discomfort, or are you happy to give your Facebook info to anyone you meet? Post from: Crushable Etiquette Guide: Why "Are You on Facebook?" Can Be the Most Uncomfortable Question |
| Gallery: Katy Perry's 10 Wackiest Looks Posted: 25 Mar 2011 10:55 AM PDT
Post from: Crushable Gallery: Katy Perry's 10 Wackiest Looks |
| '16 and Pregnant' Couple Aubrey and Brandon Have Divorced Posted: 25 Mar 2011 09:38 AM PDT
Post from: Crushable '16 and Pregnant' Couple Aubrey and Brandon Have Divorced |
| Posted: 25 Mar 2011 10:10 AM PDT This headline may be fake, but it’s scarily accurate: “In Freak Accident, 34 Katherine Heigl Films Released At Once.” (The Onion) Post from: Crushable |
| The Daily WTF: Tom Ford's Etiquette Tips As Presented By Pugs Posted: 25 Mar 2011 11:14 AM PDT
Tom Ford has an article out on gentlemanly etiquette! And BuzzFeed has images of a bunch of pugs presenting his tips, proving that proper dude behavior starts with man’s best friend Or something. Post from: Crushable The Daily WTF: Tom Ford's Etiquette Tips As Presented By Pugs |
| Which 'Teen Mom' Is Worse: Jenelle Evans or Amber Portwood? Posted: 25 Mar 2011 09:40 AM PDT
Post from: Crushable Which 'Teen Mom' Is Worse: Jenelle Evans or Amber Portwood? |
| What Is Your Least Favorite Movie Ever? Posted: 25 Mar 2011 09:21 AM PDT
But the movie happened, and it was terrible. Dave Eggers somehow managed to turn a quirky kids’ book into a whiny hipster love story about some monster who acted out because a girl didn’t like him. It was actively terrible. It was depressing. It’s the only movie I’ve ever walked out of. Here’s the rest of the office poll: Liana Maeby, Associate Editor: Either Gummo or Dancing in the Dark (the depressing Bjork movie) Lucia Peters, Editorial Intern: Gods and Generals Natalie Zutter, Associate Editor: Spiderman 3 What’s yours? Post from: Crushable What Is Your Least Favorite Movie Ever? |
| Posted: 25 Mar 2011 08:38 AM PDT Crushable’s holding VYou office hours this afternoon – Head over to our page and ask us a question and we’ll answer starting at 3 Eastern. (VYou) Post from: Crushable |
| 'Jersey Shore' Guidocabulary: Stop Being a Whiskey Dick and Maybe Apologize Posted: 25 Mar 2011 08:45 AM PDT It’s the season finale of Jersey Shore. Although I think the first season was so great it’ll be hard to top, I think that the Shore is where this show needs to be. The Miami season felt weird and artificial, but here there aren’t luxe clubs or palm trees. Ultimately, I just want to see roided-up Guidos and Guidettes get drunk, hook up, eat pizza, and yell at each other, and that’s what this show does better than anyone else. I miss it already. Bring on Italy and the spinoffs! Post from: Crushable 'Jersey Shore' Guidocabulary: Stop Being a Whiskey Dick and Maybe Apologize |
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The main reason that I first signed up for Facebook in 2007 (aside from a cute boy who lived across the country) was that I had just been on a trip to Europe where I met people who lived in Spain, South Africa, and Egypt, and I had no better way of keeping in touch with them. And when I moved to New York for school and met a bevy of people in academic and professional settings, I quickly grew used to exchanging our Facebook profiles in place of a card or phone number.
On the second season of 16 and Pregnant, we watched Aubrey Wolters and Brandon Akerill get married. We also watched Aubrey drop out of high school, fail her GED test, give birth to son Austin, and try out gold prospecting as a potential revenue source, in that order. But Oh No They Didn’t reports that 
Every week on Teen Mom 2, I find myself listing more reasons why I despise Jenelle Evans. And I’m not the only one – troubled fellow Teen Mom Amber Portwood 
This question was posed in our office today, and here’s mine: Where the Wild Things Are. Before the movie came out, I was super excited about it. I loved the book when I was a kid. I love Spike Jonze, Catherine O’Hara, and Lauren Ambrose. The trailer made me cry (although it was probably because of the generous use of Arcade Fire).
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